Sex/Love/Porn Addiction Program for Men
Many people are surprised to learn that problems with sexual impulsivity are often driven by an underlying intimacy disorder. Men who struggle with sexual impulsivity are often stuck in a larger cycle of acting out (behaviors demonstrating loss of control such as binging with sex/porn, food, spending, and substance use) and acting in (behaviors aimed to regain a sense of control such as hoarding money, restricting food intake, excessive exercise, workaholism, empty religious practices, or withdrawing emotionally / sexually from a spouse). Our first priority in treatment is to stabilize crisis situations and work to establish sobriety. We use several assessments provided by IITAP to help you:
- Assess your level of powerlessness and unmanageability
- Define and understand your “arousal template”
- Explore ways that your arousal template may influence your urge to deviate from your value system
- Gain insight into ways that adverse childhood experiences have impacted your arousal template
- Outline a treatment plan to address your intimacy disorder which may include participation in a variety of resources including 12-step meetings, sponsorship, process group, disclosure process with a spouse (including a polygraph when needed), trauma-focused therapy, and mood regulation skills.
Navigating this process is often overwhelming for clients, especially after their addiction has been discovered by a spouse. Relationship counseling is frequently needed throughout the recovery process in order to prevent further harm, help a spouse cope with the trauma of betrayal, and develop a path for achieving long-term connection.